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I recently became single again and I
have to say that I am actually enjoying being back in the bachelor life! It is surprising how easy it was to slip back into being single
again after a few years of marriage. Now I have to jump in and say
don't feel sorry for me, the break up was the right thing. We didn't
have kids and we had grown apart. It was very amicable and we are
still friends. I think the issue was that we both got married because
it was expected! If we had just stayed dating we might still be
together, but I have come to realise that I am not marriage material
and to be honest, neither was she! We got along great as a dating
couple, but once we got married and lived together it all seemed
forced. I am glad that we were able to just admit to each other that
it wasn't working as it saved a lot of pain and heartache.
When we broke up, a lot of people were
quick to point out the negative side of bachelor life, but you know
what? There are some pretty great points to consider too! The first
major point is that being a bachelor gives you much more freedom and
independence. You can be spontaneous when it comes to an impromptu
night out or a last minute road trip and no-one is going to make you
choose between football and DIY! It's not that I am
anti-relationship, but being single definitely gives me more choices
in day to day life! This also leads to having more control over my
time. I am a busy guy, my work life is demanding. When I had to worry
about coming home at a reasonable time for my wife I often had to cut
my work day short. Now when I have a big project on I am able to work
through it knowing that no-one will get on my case because dinner got
cold. It also gives me more time to enjoy my own hobbies. Fishing can
be a weekend activity instead of a once a month treat! Of course, one
major advantage is money! It is actually much cheaper to be a
bachelor than it is to be a married man! No expensive dates or gifts
for Christmas, Anniversaries, Birthdays, Valentines and so on! I also
have the opportunity to blow cash on frivolous things like video
games completely guilt free!
I'm not saying I will revert to the
stereotypical college bachelor life, sitting in my underpants eating
cold pizza for breakfast with not a clean plate in the house! If
anything, my ex-wife trained me in cooking and cleaning and I am
capable of fending for myself! Maybe that was the purpose of our
marriage? To turn me into a successful single? One thing is certain,
I am going to make the most of my bachelor life and not dwell on the
negatives of divorce. After all,it was the best choice for both of us
and it allowed us to remain friends instead of becoming bitter and
twisted shells of ourselves who loathe each other.
